Is Your Phone Ruining Your Love Life?

It may be the case.

Spending time with my boyfriend is often rewarding and fun. We have been dating for over two years and been living together for about one year. Since we live together, we spend a lot more time than couples that don’t.

We have often spent our time together with us on opposite corners of the room, him playing his Xbox and me writing. This situation is great for both of us; it is what both of us really wants to do. And also, we are both introverted so this works out perfectly a large percentage of the time.

This situation also been mirrored in where we were both on our phones in the same room, ignoring each other. We would only pause our scrolling to show the other a meme or tell a quick story of catching the other up what happened earlier in the week.

So, we let technology take over our relationship.

It worked at first since we were both agreeing parties. We both mutually understood this was a good way to spend time. Just existing together, doing what we wanted. He would be playing a mobile game or scrolling through Facebook. I would be reading or scrolling through Reddit. It was OK, we both let our phones be in the relationship.

I didn’t realize that was a problem at first.

There are some instances where our phones were being homewreckers. I would try to ask him a question and he would nod into his phone. I would do the same only go “Mhm” then look up and ask him to repeat himself. It wasn’t fully our faults, we let our phones into this relationship, the phone usage was beginning to be too much.

An indicator of this was I was going into my settings one day and my jaw dropped when I saw six hours.

I was a college student at the time…but six hours?!

I drastically dropped my phone usage because I was disturbed at the number it displayed. After not using my phone as much, (And writing more.) I began to notice my boyfriend’s usage. I had joked to him in the past that he is “paying more attention to his phone than me” and “dating the phone” but I didn’t realize I needed to address this hermetically.

So, I called him out on it, in the past and as of recent. At first, he didn’t…

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